So its almost 3am right now in my time zone and I am wide awake freaking out! I woke up with a deep deep bronchitis like cough ( the #! $?) And while I shove nutrition and pound vitamins.. and drink hot tea.. I have been wandering the internet. Pretty standard for me as I have started blogging more since fall. Also substantially increasing my social media time. I have noticed such a lack of empathy for others here lately though. Maybe winter time sadness?
Now I won’t get all mental health caseworker on you. I just feel sad for those people out there.
I would post pictures but I went to go find the examples I was looking for and they were “moderated” and already taken down.
I am not talking about misunderstood text that was lost in translation.
Just plain rude just to be rude comments.
There are lots of ways to disagree with others and I realize the internet has the extra lacking of tone from voice…but people. .. you know when what you are saying is AWFUL.
Things I want to get out:
One. You don’t know them. Be nice, play nice.
Two. Are you this awful to your friends??
Three. Empathize first ( say.. someone is having a bad day or broke a foot)
Voice your stupid comments later. Wait, you don’t know them? If you can’t say anything nice…
Four. Why does everything sound so self righteous? Do you actually talk the way you are writing? You mean to say you walk around talking to people that way!?!?
Five. Give it a rest. Negative people are toxic and spread. Your opinion isn’t that important. Actually it isn’t important in a SUPPORT group.
I would say don’t write it if you wouldn’t say it to their face – but I
know figure that person would shout ” I would say it to their face” ! Liar.
But in the off chance your not? I feel bad you find it so necessary to be mean to people online or in person. 🙁
Now. I know I just had my own rant, but here is the deal. I realized today in a Facebook group- meant to join people together over the love of something in common– I have been consistently finding more and more people who are mean. Now, maybe they are just blunt and snarky- I get that!(!!!) It has just been this progression to and different level.
There was a topic where I spoke my opinion at the moment, empathy filled just instantly wanting to support this person in feeling better. Later I read responses to the same person, and there were comments starting out ” Fine. I will be the bitch then…” and then proceeded to talk so uncaring to the other persons feelings.
So, although I agreed with some points made in the topic thread. (Yeah, talking to you grouchy I did!)
I would still never shove that at a person who was already kicked down from the circumstances they were seeking support for.
Thing is? I blog for support. Community. Inspiration. Etc. I think this deployment would be going terribly without it, and with it I find I am better all around. I am so thankful I have not gotten negative attention for my struggles!
I am going to practice tuning those negative people out, continuing to be the cheerleader, and being empathetic.
Side note- I know the internet is a place where socially awkward or worse thrive (or think they are thriving). The fact that in one example today the over analytical person who seems to miss all socially appropriate clues in the other topics —was able to pull it together and not sound like a jerk. That really says something. See ya Facebook groups, I will find information and support on my own.